Some days I literally feel like I just can’t do it. The day began with my daughter screaming all the way to school over a song she wanted to hear, and ended with resistance from my son who told me “NO” when I kindly asked for his help putting the Christmas ornaments in the attic. Oh, wait…. my mistake, it did not end there, as I had to make a late night shopping trip to Wal-Mart at 11:30pm so that there would be breakfast in the morning and food to pack for lunches.
It seems like every direction that I turn has a problem of its own. No clean clothes, or a mountain of clean clothes to fold, no food in the kitchen, no gas in the car, no water in the water cooler, or no money in the bank. Don’t get me wrong, I become blatantly aware that I am in “that kind”of rut and that I just need I need to stop, practice gratitude, take a deep breath, and maybe reconnect with nature. I usually look out my window for a starting point, then my gaze falls upon my over grown grass or green pool. It’s at that point, I usually just want to give up and say “Ok, everyone. I quit!”
I believe everyone has these days. Some may feel it deeper and some may have more off days than others, but everyone feels it in one way or another in some point in their lives. What’s my advice? My professional advice? I do consider myself a “professional” since I am one of the lucky ones who has many of these days and feels them deeply. My advice is to ride it out and go through all the emotions along with it. Give yourself the time that you need to mourn your temporary loss of happiness. You can stay in the yoga pants and t-shirt all day with out brushing your hair or teeth. BUT when it comes time to get that dinner on the table, or kids out the door for school the next day, you better give it everything you have to make sure you meet those “mommy” expectations, even if it is in your pajamas. The kids do not need to feel the depths of your grievances. They pick up on everything, and trust me, they will already feel the repercussions of your “rut” even if you attempt to mask it.
In summary, allow your sorrows to be the strength empowering you to move forward and create better days. Feel the emotions fully that come along with your pains, but don’t stay there and allow them to define who you are. Go back to being AWESOME. If you don’t feel the urge to pull through for yourself on that particular day, may your motivation be for your children and their well physical, spiritual and emotional well being.
Angela is passionate about her family, community health, the global food crisis and empowering moms to succeed in both motherhood and business. Please feel free to read more on her involvement in the wellness industry , follow her daily blogs of life as a stay-and-work at home mom or join her Yevolutionary Team of independent distributors out to rock the world!