After spending the day yesterday at motivational workshops lead by the country’s millionaires, a couple questions have come to mind. OK, a lot of questions have come to mind. At what point in our lives do we begin to accept mediocrity? When do we loose those child like dreams and aspirations and just settle for where we are in life? WHY is there only a handful of truly successful people? And WHY does it seem, if you are striving for more and better, does no one support you? I believe there is only ONE thing that sets us apart from the successful people that were on that stage, and that is SELF CONFIDENCE. It seems unanimous that the mindset of the elite few who have niched a mark for themselves in the community, remain all the same. The drive and determination they have to better themselves and their lives despite any obstacles that are in the way is compelling. I believe they have determination because they have the self confidence to back it up. As a parent, I now believe that could be the single most important thing we can gift our children with. The knowledge that THEY ARE worthy of greatness and can achieve anything they set their minds to. That one thought can change someone’s entire destiny.
If I could accomplish one thing as a mother it would be to instill the hope in my children that they can achieve their dreams. To never, EVER stop believing in themselves, their goals, and in their own life. As unrealistic as it seems to us a parents at the time, there really are dancers, astronauts, musicians and athletes in our world who make it professionally. If it’s possible and pliable to nurture your children’s ambitions with lessons in what they want to learn, that is the flow you should follow. If they want to be a synchronized swimmer? They need to start by learning how to swim. If they decide with much honesty “Well, that wasn’t for me” that’s ok, too! That is part of the learning process. (Yes, I do agree in making them finish a season, or a session of classes if prepaid and appropriate to do so)
The questions is, HOW to do we go about instilling that confidence? Well, this man pictured here on the left, stood on stage yesterday and yelled at the top of his lungs, and made us yell along with him: “I believe with every cell of my body that I will be a success in life”. Although the techniques are different for each parent, each child, and each parent-child relationship, they are much the same. The end goal being to make sure our kids know they are worthy of success in life in whatever format it may take. Practicing praise, positivity, persistence, patience. Attacking every situation with underlying love, even it a situation calls for it to be tough love. Being present and attentive, practicing communication at its core, discussing feelings and underlying causes, and always, always being consistent with household rules and regulations to develop a sense of reliability in yourself and the home. Using the words “I love you”, “You rock”, and “You’re amazing!” really often. And last one: Teaching confidence in self must always be grounded in gratitude to remain humble. Let’s teach our kids to be grateful that they have been given the means to change the world with their own bare hands!
I am grateful that I came across yesterday’s seminar on getting motivated. I was thinking of my kids as I sat there and heard from authors and e-bay millionaires. Let’s instill a such a deep level of confidence in our children that it can’t be shaken or shattered. This event did motive me for myself and my family. We can all do this! We can all reach for the stars, and teach our kids to reach for the stars as well. Everyone deserves and is worthy of happiness.
Angela is passionate about her family, community health, the global food crisis and empowering moms to succeed in both motherhood and business. Please feel free to read more on her involvement in the wellness industry, follow her daily blogs of life as a stay-and-work at home mom, or join her Yevolutionary Team of Nutrition Advocates out to rock the world!